My Wedding Vows
There is something eery and delightful about getting married.
Everyone tries to explain it to those who are amidst the process. They are giddy with excitement, yet carrying a tone of warning and cautionary advice. They will provide countless ideas of how to soak up the joy of such an occasion - and how to avoid the stress. But true understanding can only come from the experience itself.
For me, the charm did not come from the “event” of my wedding. The most thrilling moment was the declaration of commitment. The act of being witnessed in the most intimate type of love I have ever felt. And despite all of the planning, my marriage vows stirred an intoxicating sensation that can only come from the unknown. From standing fully in the presence of trust and making a promise that my whole heart hopes will be kept.
So here, I share my vows again. Why?
Maybe to inspire your own authentic expression if/ when you choose to get married.
Definitely to give myself the unexplainable pleasure of making a promise.
“Words are not enough to express my love for you.
How do I describe this indescribable feeling?
The feeling that comes from deep within my soul,
Singing a sweet and terrible melody
That you are the person with whom I am to share this life.
How can I explain the joy that swells up inside me when I am in your presence?
The kind of joy that floods every cell in my body
With wonder and delight,
Begging me to explore the mystery that soaks each breath I take.
How do I touch on all that you have taught me?
The lessons that I did not ask for,
But I cannot imagine having not received.
Words are not enough to express my love for you.
But words are all I have.
And so here, I give you my word:
I promise to stand by your side.
To celebrate your triumphs,
And push you toward your dreams.
I promise to listen and share my heart fully.
To embrace you when I am angry,
And lean in closer when I want to run away.
I promise to remember all that you have given me,
And remind you of all that you have to give.
I promise to wrap your wounds.
To supply you with energy,
Like you are my own flesh and blood.
I promise to always be truthful,
To give you my whole being.
I promise to devote my life to our love.”
Maria Borghoff (E-RYT, YACEP) is the curator of Groove Forward’s Tantra Yoga Online Magazine and has been teaching Yoga since 2011. She writes songs to cultivate faith, leads a 200-hour Yoga teacher training, and offers Tantric Readings for individuals, couples & creative entrepreneurs. @mariaborghoff